Why self help gurus can’t ever not be altruistic.
I make no secret of being a self improvement-nerd. I love self help books with actual content and I listed to loads of podcasts with the ambition of improving myself.
That hasn’t made me look away from the fact that the business of self help is really quite dirty and at times pointless.
A while back, I attended a conference that was supposedly a self hel seminar. I’ve met the guy hosting it a couple of times, and wanted to see what he was up to in action. At the end of the day, he was talking of setting goals for oneself, and stated that one of his goals was to not talk for five hours on stage as he did that day, but to stand there for ten.
The problem with that is he’d already lost when saying that. He wasn’t there to hel us, he was there because he wanted to be on stage.
I think intent is immensely important. We as humans have a very god sixth sense when it comes to intent, and we can smell when someone doesn’t have our best interest in mind.
All help needs to come from a place where the helper feels like they have enough. Otherwise it’s a fraud or a transaction.
I’ve seen that over and over again in the FB-group we are administrating, where people feel entitled for helping out. That they should get a pat on their backs or get something in return. If you want to be kind and help out, do it because of wanting to do so. Not to expect something in return.
Altruism and kindness is the ultimate strength. Trust in the usage of them.
