Emotional labour costs more

Today, I had a coaching session with a friend. We’ve decided to trade coaching sessions with one another as we complement each other pretty well, and it’s always good to have someone to talk to.

We talked about a job, and she asked me if it was worth ‘it’. It being the money I get, the time, effort, late nights and energy I put in.

I didn’t have an answer at first, so I went silent. She started comparing it to a job she has, where she should be payed a bit more for it to be worth it in the long run, but where it was close. That’s where I realised.

It’s not quite worth it anymore. Not for that kind of money. Not for that kind of work.

I’m an emotional and relational worker, meaning I put relationships first when doing something. That’s what’s important for real to me. And relationships are emotional labour. Emotional labour costs more, not only for the client, but for you as well.




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